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The idea for this issue came from many places; from a local
judge commenting that more children are coming into her family
court for more serious offenses involving drugs and violence;
from a child I know becoming involved in a violent episode that
sent her to jail; from my hearing Joseph Chilton Pearce talk
about how receptive incarcerated young people are to
storytelling. And it also came from my outrage at seeing that
horrendous cover of a national magazine after Columbine that
read "The Monsters Who Live Next Door." This collage of images
in my head led to an impulse on my part to reach through the
fear that most of these images and events generate to the
reality of what is going on for young people today. But it was
my college-age daughter, Gaby, who repeatedly challenged us to
stop blaming the kids for these problems (and casting ourselves
as the heroic rescuers) and start seeing these issues from a
young person's point of view. We kept this challenge in mind
throughout the issue.
We sought out and found for interviews four amazing people
who are rooted in the realities of young people's lives. What
they have to say is very simple. Yehuda Fine, a man who has
spent years serving lost children around Times Square, discusses
a loss of connection between the generations and gives some
straight advice about how to talk to your kids. Mary Pipher, who
brought the plight of adolescent girls to national attention,
discusses adolescence as a time to help young people learn to
negotiate relationships and manage their time.
Then we have a series of interesting comments on the binds
that we put young people in, from class-based schooling, to
army-like training via video games, to the national abandonment
and then persecution of our poorest, most vulnerable youth in
the inner cities.
Our final interviews are with two people working in the
trenches. Each, in their own way, is able to describe the "world
view" that children in trouble often develop, how we contribute
to that, and what needs to be done instead. Ruth Mikkelsen, the
principal of a Waldorf-influenced school behind bars, describes
what young people in serious trouble need from us. Andrew Vachss
is a lawyer and mystery writer who has devoted himself to
protecting abused young people and who is sharply critical of
our national indifferences.
There are many other articles in these pages that are
remarkable for the vision and support that they provide, like
Timothy Young's description of the function that young people
serve in a community and how that community can serve their
young, or Carrie Kimball's description of the confusing messages
we send about sexuality, or the plethora of wonderful book
reviews we have. And I haven't even mentioned every piece within
this issue.
A final word: we've included the quote from Thich Nhat Hanh
at the beginning of this issue for a reason. It sets a standard
for dealing with our youth: if our children are not doing well,
why aren't they and what can we do about it? This is our proper
focus. This is our challenge. Will we as individual communities,
as a nation, mature into people who are able to grasp the
difficulties our children are facing and act to provide them
with support and love? I hope so.
Ellen Bennett Becker
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